YOU are NOT alone.

Last summer I learned what the terms “depression” and “anxiety” really mean. I don’t like to go back and read my blog posts from that time period. Although a random stranger might not be able to tell, when I read those posts, I read what I was really saying. I’m sick. I’m scared. I’m so very tired. I just want to be done. I wasn’t actually contemplating suicide or anything, but many days, I wished that I could just skip the rest of my life and go to heaven because it would be so much easier.

If you’re new to the blog, I was very sick last summer; I’ve been sick for almost a year now, but last summer was for sure the worst period of it. I was incredibly sleepy all the time, I had headaches, it was hard to breathe 24/7, my hands and legs would tingle and cramp, etc. It was an endless parade of doctor’s appointments and being so tired and still dealing with normal life stuff (haha, activities other than visiting the Mayo Clinic website every day and trying to keep track of all my doctors and medicines), and I was weary. I was so weary. Between being sick and starting college algebra (math and I have never been on good terms, to put it lightly) and a whole bunch of other stuff–it was too much. Some days I felt like I’d never smile again. I found a note in my phone just now from almost exactly six months ago that reads:

Tonight everything is pushing in on me. I’m stressed about school (yes, already–I will never understand college algebra). I don’t feel worthy. I’m upset with myself that I want people to view me a certain way. I have so much stupid pride. I want new friends, but I don’t want to lose my old ones. Well–most of them. I feel despairing that I will ever make a difference in this world or do anything of value. Most of all, I am so very very physically tired and weak and weary and sick of being sick.

Everyone has bad days and everyone has times where they feel like this, but I had a lot of days like this. I can’t pinpoint an exact moment, and I can’t tell you how. I just know that sometime last September-ish, this depression went away. Not completely, of course; I still feel it coming on occasionally. Just writing about it puts me in a not-great mood because I remember how awful it was. But now, it’s once every few months instead of once every few days. And when I do feel it coming on, I pray. I saturate myself in Scripture. I simply don’t let myself fall prey to those thoughts anymore. I’m still sick–yesterday was my 18th birthday and I spent the morning in bed feeling awful. Yes, I did throw myself a brief pity party, but then I got over it and had a nice day. The last few months, I’ve been so grateful for my life. My word for 2017 is “serve,” and I think that’s something that really helps: focusing on others. I have a Post-it note on my bedroom door that reads: 1) God 2) Others 3) You.

I wasn’t really planning on ever sharing this–I don’t particularly want to hit publish on this post–but tonight a friend and I were having a casual conversation over text that suddenly got much deeper. I mentioned that I was depressed and scared and weary last year. She said that because she had experienced similar periods of depression before, she could tell I wasn’t okay. She said she was praying hard for me, and that made me stop in my tracks and just stare at my phone as tears came into my eyes. Somebody noticed. Somebody knew. Somebody cared.

So here’s my point: if you feel like you’re alone tonight, you’re not. If you think nobody cares, you’re wrong. If you’re hearing lies in your head that you have no value or no worth or that this life isn’t worth living, that’s what they are–LIES. You are not alone. Somebody always cares. You have infinite value and worth because you are a child of the King. Because of Him, this life is worth living. If you need a friend, please hit up my Contact Me page. I feel like someone needed to read this tonight, so even though I don’t want to, I’m going to click “publish.” I hope that someone was you.

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Here, have a sunset. God made it just for you.

11 thoughts on “YOU are NOT alone.

  1. I know this is an older post, but I saw it on your sidebar and checked it out and now can’t resist commenting.
    So I have been having a lot of the same problems since October 2016-ish. I’ve given up most of my activities and the things that used to keep me busy. I know it’s a bad thing but I can’t seem to bring myself to try to heal myself. I feel so subdued all the time. No enthusiasm. It’s been a real struggle these past few months.
    I needed this post and even though I’m late in reading it, I just want to say thank you thank you thank you. Thank you for being the one who was brave enough to write this—to share such a personal part of their life to help others. You are truly and inspiration and someone I aspire to be. Thank you for reaching out to others and letting them into your life. You are a beautiful soul. ❤
    Keep on being wonderful. xx



    1. I’m so glad you commented! Yes, I’ve been so depressed lately (I’m actually putting off college for a year to seek counseling) and you’re certainly not alone in that lack of enthusiasm. I’ll be praying for you–knowing that this post encouraged you made the hard days brighter.


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  4. Thanks for this, Hailey. And it is amazing you had the courage to share it, wanting to reach others…. God bless you. 🙂
    Yahweh gave us this life as a GIFT. And because of His son Yeshua, we can have the gift of eternal life. We may serve the Lord, and share His Love…. because in the end, nothing we can do or not do will make God love us more, or love us less. If we struggle- God doesn’t drop us because we aren’t ‘perfect’. He is always there. Always. THE LORD will not forsake us.
    We can only go through this beautiful life, step by step with our King. ♥
    God bless!
    -Angela |

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  5. agirlsavedbygodsgrace

    Wow … I have to say, this really touched my heart. I’ve had a lot of struggles over the past few years. If I were to really be specific, more like over the past 8 years. And I dealt with depression. At the time I didn’t really know that’s what it was … but wow I felt low. Lately, it has been much much better. But … this really helped me so much. I’m not sure if I’m that person who needed to see this tonight, but this was super encouraging.
    There have been so many times when I’ve felt so, so alone. But none of us are alone … we’re sons and daughters of a King who loves us so much ❤
    Thank you for this!!

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